Always be yourself.
I remember not so many years ago when I would do things to please people.
A LOT of what I did was to please folks.
PEOPLE was a huge problem for me.
HUGE.
I would change who I was in order to satisfy the people I was around.
In short, I was MISERABLE. I didn't know it at the time, but I truly was.
I've learned to just be me. ADRIENNE.
If YOU like $1000 shoes, thats YOU. I am NOT about to go broke trying to get stuff that YOU like.
If YOU only like to dresses that are $2000 that's YOU. I'm NOT about to go broke trying to get things that YOU like.
If "I" eat food with cream of chicken in it and YOU don't, I'm not going to stop eating stuff with cream of chicken in it.
In short, I'm going to do what makes Adrienne & family happy. You continue to do what makes YOU happy.
I don't like it when people try and make other people feel bad because they don't do or like the things that the other one likes. I hate that really.
If you like to work out and I don't, that shouldn't be a problem lol.
I think things are so messed up in todays society because a LOT of people don't think for themselves. They allow what other people say and do to influence their actions.
I'm so cautious now of who I allow in my space. See, people will see who you are and what you have and will be jealous (NOT SAYING I HAVE ANYTHING TO BE JEALOUS OF, just making a point) of that and do things to make you NOT happy.
They know your character and they know they can get over on you. MOST times it's because you are happier than they are, or in a good place and they don't like that. So they get in your head and get you off track.
Yep, I've been there too. I let someone talk me into some things and lawd. SMH.
So I speak from experience.
I didn't believe in MYSELF. I didn't have confidence in myself.
Sure, some of you may have ALWAYS been confident in yourself, always had your own mind, always did/do your own thing but that wasn't Adrienne.
NOW….babbbbyyyyy. Humph lol. God keeps me level headed and He will show me things WAY before it happens. Even if I choose to ignore what He is showing me.
Just be encouraged. Be you. Don't let what others do influence YOUR actions.
YOU reap what YOU sow.
Ok, I'm done lol. Just needed to get that out. Next update will be something crafty or happy go lucky. Some sunshine and rainbows lol SOMETHING lol
Rachelle/ 16.09.2011
I’m going to print this out and anonymously give to a co-worker. You do need to post something crafty! Tell your mom she can’t continue to buy fabric if she’s not going to use it but that if she must continue buying…she can always send it to me because you have too much also! LOL
Victoria/ 16.09.2011
You’ve said a MOUTH FULL. I love getting to the age when you begin getting comfortable in your own skin. Glad you’ve found security in God & yourself. And, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, but the most insecure people are the one’s you described above. Anyone’s out to change someone and try to hinder one’s freedom of being themself is TRULY insecure. I always say, “Do you”. Nothing like being true to yourself. Besides differences are BEAUTIFUL. We’ve got to start recognizing & embracing the differences in others:) Hey I can’t try to be like anyone, it’s a full time job just trying to be me (giggle)!
narcissaqtpie/ 16.09.2011
Oh gosh, you just brought up some memories! I was hecka cute in my younger days but so dumb. I think I had dummy/scaredycat/kickme tatooed on my forehead. I’d never go back. I am trying not to regret and just accept that it is part of the lesson.
I recently said to a co-worker that I am not afraid of getting older because I look forward to the wisdom. In the last few years I can see that I have grown and the blinders are coming off – slowly but surely.
A thing that’s killing my nerves is knowing my daughter is going to grow up and face those things and I can’t save her no matter how much I try. In her youth, she is not “able or ready” to comprehend. I know this fully, but still…
I dont always comment but I love reading your non-craft posts. OK Imma shut up now… Oh and where is the shoe post? Thanks 🙂
adrienne/ 16.09.2011
🙂 You are fabulous. I, too, am an Adrienne. Serious. That’s my name lol. I can completely relate. You go, girl!
Moe/ 16.09.2011
🙂 … Yes !!
Marla/ 16.09.2011
Woot! Woot! You are on point with this post! This is my favorite: “I don’t like it when people try and make other people feel bad because they don’t do or like the things that the other one likes. I hate that really.”
I absolutely ABHOR people who do this and have recently witnessed snarky,snobby, negative behavior like this on a sewing blog. Needless to say, I stopped following that blog as well as the people who jumped on board in agreement with the negative behavior. Thanks for this post Adrienne!
Kristi/ 16.09.2011
Oh, I love it!!!
Kim/ 17.09.2011
Great post! I know a lot of people who mold themselves to the situations and people they are around.
Inspirational, that is what you are to me!
Melanie/ 23.09.2011
you do indeed reap what you sow!
Hidi/ 24.12.2011
Amen. I have been doing some deep thinking lately and the topic of authentic self came to mind. I thought that I was being true to me but certain situations have lead me to believe that I was being pleasing to the other person. The truth does hurt. Anyway, I am learning and I realize the only way to be truly happy is be the person God wants me to be and that is ME. 🙂