Soul Food, My Walk With God

Soul Food, My Walk With God

MARRIAGE

If you enlarge this picture you can see that I have two stones missing from my wedding ring. If I would have taken this pic with my 50mm then you would also be able to see a ton of scratches on it.

Tony has been trying to get me to "upgrade" my wedding ring for the LONGEST. I just don't want it.

When we got married (at 19), we could NOT afford a big ole huge pretty ring. I THINK this ring was around $500 or $600. That was fine with me.

When I look at my ring, those two missing stones remind me of the two HORRIBLE years we had. I mean they were HORRIBLE. Like forreal lol. TERRIBLE.

The scratches remind me of the countless things we went through. Some my fault, some his.

The fact that I'm still WEARING my ring, that symbolizes our MARRIAGE is just a wonderful thing to me. I KNOW it was God's "glue" that kept us together.

There was a time when I almost lost my family. Yep. ME lol.

There was a time when I did not want to be a mother OR a wife and I acted out on that. More than once. I wasn't taking care of my home, Tony OR the kids.

What I've learned over the years is that it takes TWO to make a marriage work and it's NOT a 50%- 50% thing. It's 100%- 100%.

You can't do all the giving and you can't do all the taking. It works both ways.

I've learned to pick my battles. Some are worth fighting for, some are not.

I've learned most of all to PRAY.

So many people give up on marriages so easily now. When you marry, you married the person you are with for a reason.

Learn to pray and seek God when things get tough.

I try to tell folks all the time when you say your vows, sometimes you get to the "for worse" before you get to the "for better".

I look at my marriage now and it's all that I ever thought it would be. SURE there is room for improvement. We aren't perfect but we have joy. There is happiness in our home. I WANT to be a mother. I WANT to be a wife. Not just any kind of mother and wife but the wife that God desires me to be.

Marriage isn't for everyone, so think about it LONG and HARD. God doesn't approve all kinds of seperation. If you do it the wrong way, you will be messed up. That's not me, that's the WORD. So be careful, and be prayerful.

I know so many marriages going through the ringer right now. I always pray God's will be done in their lives. At one point I was praying something else, then realized that God's will is better than ANYTHING I can every want.

Just want to encourage someone to hold on. Marriages, especially younger marriages is something that's very near and dear to my heart. I'm young and my marriage has really been tested and tried but we made by the grace of God.

 This has been in my drafts forever. Here are a few more blog posts I've seen that were really good concerning marriage:

http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2011/10/25/the-point-of-it-all/#comment-16440

http://couplethingsblog.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/warning-signs/

http://couplethingsblog.wordpress.com/2011/10/20/relationship-trouble-shooting-part-1/

HEre is one more link a friend sent me the other day:

http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=How_Do_I_Make_This_Relationship_Work?_

I'm not perfect, just striving to be the woman God wants me to be. Keeping my life lined up with the WORD!