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Board of Directors…What about your friends?

Board of Directors…What about your friends?

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Hey guys!

Do you have a board of directors? Do you have good friends? ARE you a good friend?

I’ve held on to these two articles for a while now:

http://www.blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2013/07/5-ways-to-tell-if-your-friends-are-toxic/

and

http://paulcbrunson.com/2012/12/surround-yourself-with-better-people/

I want to say Singlema sent them to me. She sends me the best stuff.

We were on twitter one day and she was talking about her “board of directors”. I was like huh!?

The more she talked about it the more I started to wonder who was on my board of directors.

This entire process made me look REALLY hard at the friendships that I have in my life.

This whole “friends” thing is something else to me. I’ve been the one who was hurt and I’ve been the one who has done all the hurting. I’m sure ya’ll have read some of my older posts about it. I realize the mistakes I’ve made over the years and I’ve made a promise to myself to only be a blessing in peoples lives. If it gets to a point where I’m NOT being a blessing…I’ll say BYE FELICIA to myself. I will walk away because I ONLY want to be a blessing. Don’t get it wrong, being a blessing is not always giving things. It’s giving time, listening, being honest and telling the truth…you get the idea.

I’ve shared a LOT on my blog over the years. I may not always get TOO personal but y’all know when something is going on lol. Well, sometimes lol.

Anyway I’m at a point in my life where the people who are truly close to me are very special to me. I don’t let any and everyone get close anymore. God has to TRULY let me know, hey…it’s ok. Chill out. Otherwise I will speak and keep it moving.

I had to learn that it’s ok if EVERYONE isn’t close to you, it’s ok if you aren’t close to everyone and some people are only in your life for a season. Hopefully y’all know that. It took me a WHILE to learn it. SMH

I do thank God for my experiences though. It has truly made me who I am today.

I have a few people in my life who are just blessings. It’s funny, but each person has a different role and some play multiple roles if that makes any sense:

God. Really. We talk. All the time lol.

Tony is a part of EVERY role.

Prayer Partner/Shoe fanatic lol

Spiritual Advisor. No seriously. She’s like my mentor.

My Best Friend. She will be there for life because she knows WAY too much lol.

The girls I talk to at all hours of the night because we are night owls. Man. God knows who to put in your life.

You get the drift.

I want to encourage you to be the best PERSON you can be. Be the best FRIEND you can be and always treat others the way you want to be treated. REALLY.

That’s it for me!

18Comments

LilBit/ 04.08.2014Reply

In the same sense how do you take certain people off your board of directors? Someone who only calls when they want to talk about themselves, have a problem, need something from you but seem to ALWAYS be unavailable when you need to talk? These are more like associates to me but it can be draining at times.
- AEadmin/ 04.08.2014Reply
  
  You just have to remove yourself from them. I have had that problem too. I was always the one who did the inviting, always the one who did the calling, always the one who did EVERYTHING. I had to realize that people will take as long as they feel like they can. God has blessed me with several gifts so people would TRY and take advantage of that under the umbrella as “friend”. Once I finally got tired of being hurt, I just removed myself. They will still call every now and then but I don’t give them an opportunity to take advantage of me. You know who is taking advantage and who isn’t and besides a true friend puts as much into the friendship as you do 🙂 ((((HUGS))))
  - LilBit/ 04.08.2014Reply
    
    Thankfully there’s only 2. I guess I just don’t know how to respond. I don’t really contact either that much. But one is close in distance and she likes to hang out. The other is further away. Sometimes I feel bad for ignoring the calls. And for the one closer in town I see her every Wednesday night at Bible study so it’s a little harder to do. (I hope that made sense) As I’ve gotten older I realized that I’d rather have 2 real friends then a group of “associates”.
    - AEadmin/ 04.08.2014Reply
      
      Makes plenty of sense. You will have to handle them with a “long handled spoon”. I wouldn’t feel bad at all,but that’s me. Ignoring calls that will drain you and have your spirit all upset isn’t even worth it.
      - LilBit/ 04.08.2014
        
        You’re right. It’s easier with the one who lives further. The other one has “confronted” me before/after Bible study of why I ignored her calls/texts. I told her I was busy.
      - AEadmin/ 04.08.2014
        
        I had one do something similar and call me because I blocked them from my FB page. After that I changed my number and ALL these ladies live near me. I don’t know sometimes people don’t realize they aren’t supposed to be in your life all the time. There is nothing wrong with being a seasonal friend if that is what you are supposed to be. IMO the problem comes when the people who are only season try to stay a lifetime.
      - LilBit/ 04.08.2014
        
        Wow! I didn’t think about blocking them from social media. That would help. The one near me popped up at my house randomly after not answering her texts/calls. I guess it’s a more delicate situation? I don’t know. It’s just that we have mutual friends and Weds she will make conversation with me, ask to hang out, etc. I can’t just sit there and act like I don’t hear her lol. Anyway! Let me stop with all these comments on your blog.
      - AEadmin/ 04.08.2014
        
        Girl I keep them from my immediate space. Nerp. And THAT is going way too far. WAYYYYYYYYY. You may have to just tell her that you aren’t available to go out. You are fine lol. That’s what the section is for lol
Kawan J/ 04.08.2014Reply

I love this post! Met with one of my board members last night. Lol. I’ve never had many true friends…you know, the ones that contribute and don’t just take, take, take. I now have a couple in my life and it feels awesome. I am very social, so many people probably THINK they are a close friend, but my heart says otherwise.

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- LilBit/ 04.08.2014Reply
  
  Totally agree! That’s why I have a few close friends and others are associates!
- AEadmin/ 04.08.2014Reply
  
  Girl I haven’t either until now. People will drain you just taking stuff. I’m social as well I talk to a LOT of different people but I’ve learned the difference between friends and associates .
LilBit/ 04.08.2014Reply

I just can’t help the Wednesday nights tho. Yeh when she popped up my face was 0_o
Monique/ 05.08.2014Reply

Good post. My “board” has changed as I’ve changed over the years. It has been smaller and smaller but there a few who are consistently there. I have no shame in saying I very few friends and I prefer to keep it that way. Its one thing to know a lot of people but friends, your board, nah, I like mine small. My board knows who they are and the role they play in my life and that of my kids.
- AEadmin/ 05.08.2014Reply
  
  Totally understand! I’m the same way. I told someone my circle is fruit loop small lol
TJ/ 05.08.2014Reply

This really made me think about the friends I have had over the years and made me really thankful for the ones I have now.
- AEadmin/ 06.08.2014Reply
  
  🙂
kia/ 13.08.2014Reply

My sis and hubby are my only friends
- AEadmin/ 13.08.2014Reply
  
  Sometimes that’s all you need 🙂